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It’s Not What You Say, It’s What You Do


“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

So often people are disappointed in others, complaining about their betrayal, deceit and duplicity; however, had they opened their eyes and observed the person and what was being inferred, the intention would have become very clear, very quickly.

Over the years I have learned that people know what to say – backing up what they say with matching behavior is a totally different story.  We are often encouraged to tell the people we love that we love them.  Like you, I like to hear I’m loved.  Yet when the words are said without a demonstration of love, I get suspicious.  I rarely tell certain people in my life that I love them; I show them instead.  When the grass has to be cut or the house needs repair or painting, I show up to do what needs to be done and, if necessary, come back to finish the job.  If my wife wakes up at 3:00 AM and asks for a drink of water, I’m glad to get it.  If a friend needs my time, I am there.  I think the world would be a much better place if we stopped saying the right words and started doing the right actions instead.

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